Frustrated!!!!

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  1. Buckbuster

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    My buddies from college were huge outdoor nerds. Marriage/kids come along and I can’t get anyone to ever go on a overnight hike/float with my son and me. Getting really really frustrated!!!!!!
     
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    I can’t speak for your friends, but for me it’s more frustrating not be able to get out than it is only being able to get out by myself. I don’t mind solitude in the woods, but I get frustrated how little time in the woods I get.

    Maybe it’s time for some new friends! :)
     
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    I don’t mind time in the woods by my self. All talk... let’s do this, let’s do that, and when I get a calander out and say let’s make it happen then magically thy are busy till next October, but “Man that trip sounded soooo fun”.
     
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    I live central Mo and it is so important to me to get my boys in the woods.
     
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    Tell your buddies you’re going and when. Go. Come back. Tell them how much fun it was.
    Eventually they’ll get to thinking about it and one or more of them will want to come along.
     
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    Start a thread when you want to plan an outing. I have met some outstanding people on this forum that are ready to hit the woods just about anytime they are asked. If your old friends don't go, so be it but at least you will still get some dirt time with someone to join you.
     
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    That is a great idea. Come winter I will do that. Good way to get to know y’all.
     
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    Go Solo. My guess is you will never miss them...
     
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    I own land in Montgomery county, Mo., and while I don't have the ground for all day hikes, I have plenty of ground for bushcrafting, and wild camping. What county are you in ?
     
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    @Buckbuster I'm in barry county Missouri.
    Where are you at ?
     
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    Then tell your friends about your new friends...the ones that still go in the woods. :)
     
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    Osage county
     
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    What about now? Just sayin'... :)
     
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    I can never get anyone to go on trips with me either! I go solo most of the time. Only people that will go with me is my dad on day trips, he sometimes stays overnights, and my young teenage nephews are always down to go for a couple nights in the woods. It would be nice to hit the woods with someone who has a similar level of fitness and woods knowledge/skills but I'll go solo till I find some kindred bushcraft spirits haha.

    I used to take a couple of my city friends on over nighters and 2-3 night trips and it always felt like I was "guiding" them the whole time. Being somewhat new to the outdoors they were a bit like children who needed constant attention. Had to calm them down from noises in the night, make sure they didn't set themselves and the woods on fire, answer constant questions (of the "you think a bear will eat us?" variety) ect. I enjoy teaching bushcraft skills but the times I have taken buddies out it usually feels like babysitting lol.

    It does get frustrating but don't let other people keep you out of the woods!
     
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    EXACTLY!

    Besides, if you have your son with you, that should be plenty of company.
     
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    @Buckbuster I'll tag you when we come up with a date for are next meet-up.
     
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    I am always by myself too....when you get old your friends are either to old to go or dead.
     
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    The Meetup app is great for finding hiking groups and outdoors events. I use it from time to time.
     
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    That's exactly how people get pregnant. My daughter is my buddy's fault. We were supposed to go camping and fishing...he canceled out and 9 months later.:16:

    Still his fault.;)
     
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    Funny...I forgot all about asking those old friends.. now I just invite BCUSA friends.
     
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    I'm raising my daughter to be my timing buddy, you already have your son what's the problem?!

    Seriously I do have the same problem, but I also have to put in long range planning to get trips in so the few guys that will go can do the saem. We plans months ahead
     
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    Heck, you're just a hop, skip, and a spear throw from me. If you and your son ever want to get away for the day, or whatever, PM me.
     
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    Get out and meet people along the way. I meet a flip flopper doing a PA to GA SOBO, two ladies who were hiking together, and a couple of guys from Baltimore that I ended up having a beer with on my overnighter this past weekend. It was sort of nice not having to stress shit anyone else.
     
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    Family first, it'll be better without your friends
     
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    Tell me about it! All my friends suck now.
     
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    I saw the same thing happen. Guys get married and the fishing stuff stays hanging in the garage and the motorcycle gets all dusty and won't run any more. Now that I'm old I have a few buddies that still want to go hunting, and there's more time now for sure. Kids and grandkids are all working or going to school or arnen't interested, so any old farts who are still able can go fishing and hunting all they want, as long as they don't mind going alone or are willing to put up with other old geezers. My wife still likes to go camping but it has to be in warm weather and she needs her camp trailer, DVD/TV, kitchen, comfy bed, shower, and LOTS of water
     
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    Enjoy the time with your son.
     
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    Nothing wrong with those friends, "to each their own" ... You just need some more friends and it seems like you got a few friendly offers.
     
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    Work has me in Springfield MO now with time off today and tomorrow most likely.

    It's great weather out here for getting outside for some bushcraft and fishing. I am going to try and get out.
     
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    Know exactly how you feel. My buddy who I usually hike and camp with and who is responsible for rekindling my interest is for lack of better wording, unreliable. Has great ideas and has taught me some cool tricks but when it comes to outings we just don't do much. We'll have a easy 1 mile in hike and just kinda hang out. Wants to do some adk peaks but I don't see it happening. So I guess I am going solo.
     
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    Which needs to be soon. This 3 week whirlwind trip back East has me ready to go again. Wife is talking canoe even harder.:dblthumb:
     
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    Canoeing would be sweet brother !
    With all this heat we need to stay near water. Fall is coming.

    3 week whirlwind trip ?
    Your living the dream brother !
     
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