Gave some gear to a


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homeless guy He was on the side of the road as I was riding my bike home from work today. We have some bad weather coming through I stopped and asked him if he was OK he said yea I asked if he lived around her he said nope. he said he was from california when i asked how he got here hesaid he was strung out. I told him where the nearest shelter was he declined I told him where a wicciup i built was he declined , he said he was trying to make it to a bridge to get under.I asked him what kind of shelter he had on him he said nothing so i offered him a tarp he said it wasnt much use to him so i old him good luck and headed home but i couldnt stop thinking about that storm so i got my tarp, 2 quart canteen, foam sleeping pad mess kit can and wrapped it up in my good wool blanket, got my pow pow and chased him down. I also told him how to get here if he wanted to learn how to use those things right.
He was a little wary of me and didnt want to take them at first so i told i would just leave them there and he could doo what he wanted with it. then he said he already had too much weight so i picked up his bag and it was pretty heavy he said it was because of the coke but i chose to believe he had a 2 liter of cocacola in his bag. I gave him 15 bucks because it was all i had on me and told him where he might get himself a good cheape knife if he wanted one because he may need it for chores but i didnt put one in his hand so mabye it wont be on me if anything happens. But now that I think about the whole thing I kinda just wish iwould have just kept riding Should I have did what i did or what? I hope the guy gets his life straightened out but I dont know.
 
I can't see any fault in trying to do the right thing. Don't sweat it I say.
 
Man, this stuff is always a tough call. But you can't always turn the other cheek, nor can you always help somebody. So I think we should all help when we are moved to do it and have the means. And that's what you did. Sounds like this guy didn't really want the help, but I bet he took the stuff you left and I bet he'll use every bit of it. On the other hand, he may just trade them for smokes or dope.
 
I think you did the right thing man. You gave of yourself without asking anything in return. Not only was he given a way to make shelter for the night if he does straighten out a little bit he has been given the chance to get the greatest gift of all, knowledge. You may question what you did, but on the other side it could have been a huge turning point for him.
 
I think it was highly generous of you, and no i don't think you did the wrong thing, its never a bad thing to help someone in need. Also did he keep the gear you gave him or did you keep it?
 
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Man, this stuff is always a tough call. But you can't always turn the other cheek, nor can you always help somebody. So I think we should all help when we are moved to do it and have the means. And that's what you did. Sounds like this guy didn't really want the help, but I bet he took the stuff you left and I bet he'll use every bit of it. On the other hand, he may just trade them for smokes or dope.
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I've never been homeless but I've seen tough times. I agree there are times someone just won't accept help. Thats his issue not yours. If he does end up trading it for smokes and dope that is also his problem. You tried to help and thats what matters.
 
Twinsteel said:
Man, this stuff is always a tough call. On the other hand, he may just trade them for smokes or dope.
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If that's what happens, it's not on roamer's head. His intentions were pure.

roamer1000 said:
thats what im afraid of and yes he kept the gear
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What you did may have very well saved the man's life. You had the best intentions and whatever the guy does with the stuff you gave him is up to him.

Hang on to that thought and stop second-guessing yourself.

You did good. Proud of you!

Steve
 
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Ya done good, whether he actually keeps and uses the gear or not is on him.

All you can do is all you can do. Everyone has to take some responsibility for their own life.
 
You showed compassion to a fellow human. How is that wrong in any way? You did a good thing.

God bless you brother.
 
You never know what effect your actions or words might have. You followed what your heart (or gut or the Spirit) told you to do and that's where your responsibility ends. However your kindness may or may not have effected that homeless man, you are a better and stronger person for the experience. Empathy, compassion and charity are virtues to embrace and be proud of and like anything else, with practice you get better at it.

I'm proud of you brother.
 
He sounds like he's been stepped on and kicked a few times too many. I know that feeling.

I got a call one night from a friend who was stranded after work with a dead battery on a -20 degree night. On my way over, I saw some old guy walking down the road. On my way back, I went that same way to see if he was still there...something was bugging me about it. I found him in sitting next to a fence. Got him to the car and took him home (I was single at the time, so no kids or family to worry about) and got him thawed out. He spent the night on the couch, got a shower and did some laundry the next morning. I loaded him up with supplies and he was off again with a profound thanks. old guy, was a miner once until he got hurt.

Ya do what you can when you have the chance. If nothing else, he may get a spark that not all humans are going to treat him like dirt.
 
You can almost never guarantee what happens after you charitably give. You can mitigate it some by not giving money but that's about it. Give a guy who is standing on the side of the road a burger or offer to buy them dinner and you will probably be turned down more often than not. What is important is what YOU do and YOUR intentions. Don't sweat it. You did good. Proud of you.
 
It's more blessed to give than to receive...you did what your heart/spirit told you to do. We should all listen to those good inner voices more often. He is responsible for what he does with what you gave him, don't doubt yourself bro, good job!
 
it is our duty to take care of our brothers and sisters in need of help. if he turns and does ill with your gifts and charity that is on him not you. i could go on but i need to get home. you did the right thing.
 
You dun good, brother. His life is his responsibility, if he chooses that life then that's his problem, and nothing you do is going to change him, the change has to come from within!

But that action of yours may have impressed upon him the idea that even in times such as these, there are still people of a charitable nature, who CARE, about strangers, not just themselves. That may be the impetus he needs to sober up and settle down the best he can.

PMZ
 
Good on you

You acted in good faith. He has to choose whether or not to accept what you gave in good faith. The ball is now in his court.

That's all you can do.
 
You did all you could. If he chose not to use the gear, then its beyond anybody's control but his. He has to want to survive and get better before it will occur.

Good on you!
 
You did the Christian thing man, and I really admire that. You never know how far even the smallest act of kindness can go. This selfless act could help him to find a better path. You helped him to be able to help himself.

Hebrews 13:2
Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
 
Honestly the only part I really regret is giving away my best blanket. I just wonder how that happens to people to start with
 
You did good man. Everyone is responsible for their actions alone. You for yours and him for his. Maybe he was a little hard headed and unwilling to take the offer because he didnt want to impose on anyone. Some people are like that... You did what you felt was right in your heart and that's all that matters. I had a lady call me a liar to my face after she asked me for some cash.. I told her I didn't have any(which I honestly didn't)... Ive heard numerous life stories and I've tried to help where I can. Just follow your heart and instincts.

On a side note. I still struggle with the picking up of hitchhikers... I can't bring myself to do it.
 
roamer1000 said:
Honestly the only part I really regret is giving away my best blanket. I just wonder how that happens to people to start with
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its a mental thing any homeless person has a mental TRAUMA-(i meant) in a way or another...its sad but true , because there is always Social Security , ,programs,Shelters , Soup Kitchens... , and with 20$ you go in a thrift or goodwill and get 1 pair of good shoes/boots , 1 pants, 2 shirts, 1 winter coat -

-i actually did help out a homeless dude with some shoes in goodwill last week he was getting some clothes and was short on $$ for shoes ...at least he spent his money well
 
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You saw a Fellow Human Being, who you thought was "In Need" - And for whatever reason, You felt 'Called' to Help .. And You Did.
Good On Ya!!!
Your part of the drama Is Done - No need to second-guess your action.
If one feels "Called" to help another person - And does so in a completely 'selfless' manner, it can Not be a bad thing.
It is really none of your concern how the person chooses to deal with the help - They are on their own Journey.

However, If one 'helps' another person, and associates Expectations to that 'help', then it is no longer a "selfless" act - and they will Always try and second-guess the action.​
 
We can only control ourselves (and doing good to do that).

You never know what might changes someone's perspective on life, what might change someone's life.

Just keep doing good, and don't worry about where it falls.
 
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